Some parents seek out my support because it matches their established responsive parenting values and are excited to find sleep support without sleep training. Other parents tried sleep training, and it didn’t work. They somehow find their way to me, and it takes a leap of faith to try something very different.

X and R took that leap when a friend recommended me to them after trying cry it out and still struggling with sleep. I’m so thankful they were open minded and curious, because working with them was a great experience!

Client Success Story

Here is a bit from X as she reflects back on our 2 months working together from the time her little one was between 6-8 months.

“My husband and I so desperately wanted our 6 month old to be an independent sleeper- to fall asleep on his own, stay asleep on his own, sleep at least hour long naps, and sleep through the night. It's what all the websites said he should be able to do at that age and friends with babies younger than our son were already doing these things. We never thought we would resort to cry-it out, but as so many new parents find themselves feeling exhausted, defeated, and unsure what else to do, we tried it. It wasn't the quick fix so many books, websites, and even friends had described. After weeks of continued crying, our son was still struggling to fall asleep at night and waking a number of times; he was still a cat napper. And now, on top of feeling defeated, we felt guilty we had put our son through that. Sleep training had failed us.

With so many ‘sleep trainers’ out there, we didn't know where to turn or who we could trust. Thankfully, a friend of a friend recommended Kim. After browsing Kim's website, we quickly realized her approach was the polar opposite of the experience we had just had. We were apprehensive, but after chatting with Kim during an initial consult, something just felt right. During our first call with Kim, she acknowledged our feelings around our pretty traumatizing experience with the cry-based sleep training without any judgment and gave us the space to process the whole thing, something we hadn't even had a chance to do. Our time working with Kim was so valuable for our entire family. She was honest and realistic about goal setting, helped us to understand what's truly within age expectancy, shared research, and articles, and was very comprehensive, noting the importance of not looking at our son simply through a "sleep lens." Her support was truly personalized, taking into consideration our son's temperament and even grandma's needs while she helped with naps. She was prompt and thorough in her responses to our many questions via email, and her scope was wide, offering information on sensory interplay with sleep and the breastfeeding relationship as well. “

Kim empowered us with both the knowledge and very practical tips that we needed to continue supporting our son with naps and nighttime sleep. She helped us feel good about still being "hands on" parents during this gradual process, finding patterns in our son's sleep, all the while respecting our desire to eventually move towards some independence in his sleep journey. 

 My approach

In working with X and R, I helped them redefine what it meant to support healthy sleep. We optimized their routines and environment so that sleep came more easily. While independent sleep was a goal of theirs, reframing it as a long-term goal helped them take the pressure off of themselves so that they could truly support their little one’s sleep

If this kind of support sounds like what you are looking for, let’s talk. If you have sleep trained in the past but want a different path forward now, I’m happy to help.